As another Father’s Day comes and goes even the most passive observer, as he witnesses the deliberate and methodical removal of the masculine identity from the American society, has to question which father identity it is that we are celebrating? Is it the masculine male identity/ego of our father’s father, or is it the femininized male identity/ego of today’s version? I prefer to use the word ego rather than identity because ego best refers to one’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance.
It is hard to be unaware of the systematic evaporation and marginalization of traditional American manhood and masculinity. From everything from president Lyndon Baines Johnson’s expansion of the Aid to Families with Dependent Children [AFDC] under his so-called Great Society’s conditional removal of the male from the home of the female that is receiving government assistance, and provided financial support to the woman for each child born, and the woman’s liberation movement of the 1960s, that challenged the very idea of the traditional man’s purpose in the life of the woman. Today we have the redefining of marriage to no longer being that of one man and one woman and the insane proliferation of what exactly is a gender from either it being simply either a male or female, to it being either male, female, or up to 56 different genders, according to social media giant Facebook. The removal of or diminishment of any resemblance of cultural masculinity in sports, i.e., American football, how we teach success to the youth, everyone gets a trophy, culturally, with Political Correctness, where no one’s feelings are to be hurt and the mere thought of possibly offending someone is literally a federal crime are all elements of the marginalization of the American masculine ego. The regenderfication, the redefining of genders and their roles that have succeeded for millennias, is in hyper-drive not just here in America, but in most European and Western societies of the world. The assault on the masculine ego has only been intensified with the media’s recent desire to portray all men as sexual deviants and abusers of women, who are portrayed as weak and defenseless, in the image of men such as Harvey Weinstein without context or disclaiming that the vast majority of men do not act in such repulsive behavior or manner.
As I have said many times before in my writings, the proper definition of what is masculinity and feminity is so important in this discussion. Masculine is to be aggressive. At times, masculine is to view things in a more cold calculating manner. Masculine is to be more assertive and rigidly self-determined, even at the risk of being wrong. But, more than anything, the masculine-dominant will seek to defend and protect his and himself first, irregardless of what others may think, and favors personal security above all else. By contrast, feminine is closely related to goodness. To be feminine is to be more nurturing. To be feminine is to be more emotionally attuned. To be feminine is be more passive and willing to compromise just to keep the peace. And to be feminine-dominant will look first to consider the needs of others, are more willing to give up their freedoms and liberties for the benefit of others.
The proponents of the abolishment of the American masculine ego has even invented an unflattering word to describe it, toxic masculinity – In psychology, toxic masculinity refers to traditional cultural masculine norms in American and European society that can be harmful to men, women, and society overall; this concept of toxic masculinity is not intended to demonize men or male attributes, but rather to emphasize the harmful effects of conformity to certain traditional masculine ideal behaviors such as dominance, self-reliance, and competition. Toxic masculinity is thus defined by adherence to traditional male gender roles that restrict the kinds of emotions allowable for boys and men to express, including social expectations that men seek to be dominant (the “alpha male”) and limit their emotional range primarily to expressions of anger. Compare this definition of so-called toxic-masculinity to that of masculinity and you will more than likely come to the conclusion that adherence to the bounds of toxic-masculinity totally guts masculinity for all intent and purpose. Stop for a tic, imagine the reaction and condemnation if this term was toxic femininity? YIKES!! It would not be good.
Our national culture has existed and thrived due to the balance between the genders and each one properly fulfilling their roles, dictated by Judeo-Christian principles, not as equals necessarily, but in effective balance and respect. Balance and respect are the operative words.
The effects of the unwavering war on the American male ego has revealed itself subliminally in how we interact with each other, as in the case of Netflix forbidding its employees from looking at each other for more than 5 seconds for fear of sexual misconduct charges, and schools canceling father and daughter dances, so as not to appear non-inclusive or fair by favoring the traditional relationship of the male father and daughter to that of the lesbian model of female “father” and daughter, and the banning of competitive sports and games, and activities at many elementary schools, such as tag, dodgeball, kickball, snowball fighting, the elemenation of score keeping, and discouraging having “best friends” so as to not cripple a young child’s esteem, just to name a few examples.
But the effects are even more tragic in plain sight when it comes to the absence of a masculine male in the home. According to a recent report by the Pew Research Center, an astonishing one out of four parents is living with a child in the United States today outside a traditional marriage, i.e man and woman. Compare that to less than a century ago it was less than one-in-ten. Thanks to LBJ, the government has in too many cases taken the place of the male as provider to the woman. The ramifications of this catastrophic phenomena are no more on full display than in the Black-American community, where astoundingly approximately nearly 3 quarters of children are born to single mothers. Compare this to the rest of the developed world today where it is barely over a quarter, according to atlantablackstar.com. In 1960, the number of Black-Americans born in single-parent households was just 22 percent. Of the 27 of the most deadliest mass shootings in America, had less to do with the gun, as what the media would have us to believe. According to foxnews.com, 98% of the worst mass shootings were carried out by the product of a fatherless home. Here are some more facts of what happens when a child is raised without the masculine male in the home, according to www.fatherhood.org; teen pregnancy is 7xs more likely a product of a fatherless home; children of fatherless homes are more likely to have behavioral issues, more likely to commit crimes and end up in prison, and are 2xs more likely to drop out of school. A cbs.com reported on a 2012 study by The University of Texas at Austin of a random selection of 15,000 young adults, of which nearly 300 were of a parent who has had a same-sex romantic relationship, based on 40 different social, emotional, and relational outcome variables when compared with six other family-of-origin types. The study found that “the respondents whose mother had a same-sex relationship fared worse on 24 of the 40 tested outcomes, compared with children of an intact heterosexual couple”.
The agenda of those who wish to abolish traditional masculinity threatens not just the relationship that man has with himself, how he sees himself as an important component of family and society, how he relates to the opposite gender, but also the very thread that has woven this great nation together in particular, as well as that of western society for millennia. The American masculine ego, coupled with Judeo-Christian principles, is what has made America great and prosperous more than any nation before. It is what has made the family nucleus strong, therefore has made our culture, society, and country strong. To remove the masculine ego from the American male is to figuratively castrate him to the point that Father’s Day, and all that it is to be celebrated, is also hollow.